Are you secretly condemning yourself? I’m sure you have heard of the notion of forgiving yourself, but what does that actually mean? A young lady shared with me how she was going through a tough time. She experienced the death of her dad and was wondering if it was due to her not being “right with God”. It was then that I was reminded of the importance of knowing a few things about forgiveness and forgiving yourself.
So here’s a 12 question test to see if you are secretly condemning yourself:
1) If something bad happens to you do you rationalize that it happened because of a past sin or mistake?
2) Do you expect things to go wrong?
3) Do you find it extremely difficult to forgive people?
4) Do you criticize yourself often?
5) Do you live with constant regret?
6) Do you continue to do the things you regret doing?
7) Are you overly passive or critical of people who have made similar mistakes?
8) Are you always trying to make-up for the poor decisions of the past?
9) Do you walk away, fail to take advantage of, or refuse to accept great opportunities that will make you happy?
10) Do you think certain breakthroughs didn’t happen for you because your walk with God isn’t perfect?
11) Do you live in fear?
12) Do you run from God?
If you have answered yes to any of these you may be secretly condemning yourself. Condemnation is a judgement against yourself. But it’s not any ole judgement. It’s that type of judgement that’s final, binding, and lasting. It’s a sentence against yourself that says from here on out it goes downhill. That’s exactly where Satan, the condemner, wants you to live. It’s there that he can disconnect you from Gods best. It’s there that he can cause you to go the opposite direction that you should go.
If you’ve asked God for forgiveness through Jesus, you are forgiven! Don’t believe anything different. You are free to live and yes you are also free to make mistakes without it being a death sentence. That’s what forgiveness is. It’s freedom. When you are not on great terms with someone you tend to have a short leash. That means anything that you do wrong can potentially cause a huge fallout.
However when you are in a great relationship with someone, there’s grace. There’s a “long leash”, so to speak. Not that we use our freedom to live opposite of God’s will for our life. But we live free before Him, knowing that He isn’t mad at us, looking to catch us doing something wrong, and withholding His best from our lives until we get our act straight. Forgiveness says, “We are on good terms”. In fact, when it comes to you and God, you are on great terms. Jesus made that possible.
So the only thing I’d like you to forgive yourself of is for the sin of not forgiving yourself. That’s right! Not forgiving yourself is a sin. If God requires that we forgive people, you are certainly in the category of “people”.
So from here on out don’t accept feelings of guilt from the past. Confess to The Lord, believe that you are clean, and when a feeling of guilt tries to come upon you vocalize boldly that are clean. Do not live in shame. You truly are free. You are a part of God’s Holy Nation, not Satan’s Condem-nation.