How Do I Forgive?

Lately I’ve been asked by a few people, “How do I forgive?”. It’s a fair question when you consider that many people have experienced betrayal, abuse, slander, or neglect from people they once trusted. When I hear this question I understand more clearly what people are asking. They’re not asking, “How do I forgive?”. They’re really asking, “How do I not feel angry or hurt anymore?”. People sometimes make the mistake of equating feelings with forgiveness. They’re two different things. Some might even be asking for God to take the pain away. Here’s the blunt truth: He won’t! Why? The […]

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Have you really forgiven yourself? Here’s how to know for sure

Are you secretly condemning yourself? I’m sure you have heard of the notion of forgiving yourself, but what does that actually mean? A young lady shared with me how she was going through a tough time. She experienced the death of her dad and was wondering if it was due to her not being “right with God”. It was then that I was reminded of the importance of knowing a few things about forgiveness and forgiving yourself. So here’s a 12 question test to see if you are secretly condemning yourself: 1) If something bad happens to you do you […]

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